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MentorCONNECT's Weekly Mentoring Moment
A Chance to Build New Skills for Mentoring Matchups
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December 7, 2009
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Perfection is not one of our choices
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Welcome to this month's Good News!
Another week, another great edition of MentorCONNECT's Weekly Mentoring Moment filled with lots of great information. Enjoy! :-)
See you on tonight's and Thursday night's live chat.
Shannon, Jeanette, Andrea, Lynn, Cheryl, & Thom
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Donate $25 (or more) to MentorCONNECT and get a
free recovery book & CD as our THANK YOU!
As
a part of the MentorCONNECT family, you know that we are a group of
volunteer leaders, mentors and those in recovery who work together to
overcome the bane of an eating disorder... completely FREE to
anyone who needs help.
 And
while our team of mentors and volunteers are dedicated to offering
our time for free, there are always costs involved in running such an
organization. That's why we need your help in the form of donations.
But we
also want to show appreciation for the faith you show in us with your
dollars, so for any $25 donation (or more) you make during the
month of December, we'll send you a copy of Andrea Roe's and Shannon
Cutts' book/CD, You Are Not Alone Volume 2. It's our way of saying THANK YOU for your support.
It's an inspiring collection of personal recovery stories,
poems, artwork and song lyrics by women who are either in recovery or
fully recovered from an eating disorder. Included in the book is also
the You Are Not Alone Companion CD filled with healing songs by women who are either fully recovered or in recovery from an eating disorder.
 To make your donation, simply go to www.key-to-life.com/mc_give.
Once you have place your donation, someone from the MentorCONNECT team
will get in touch with you to confirm your mailing address for the book.
Thank you again for all your support and Merry Christmas!
Your MentorCONNECT Ledership & Advisory team
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Mentoring "Thought for the Week"I have the kind of relationship with myself that allows me to explore any topic safely, completely, honestly, and courageously.
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Join us Wednesday, December 9: MC Teleconference Series
with Thom Rutledge, Shannon & Jeanette
"Perfection is not one of our choices"
In
this teleconference, Thom, Shannon and Jeanette will lead a discussion
about one of the most dangerous pitfalls of eating disorder recovery:
the unrelenting and destructive drive to measure ourselves against a
standard of perfection. The timing of this discussion is, of course,
"perfect," as we all prepare for a new year --- and a new decade.
Date: Wednesday, December 9th
Time: 9pm Eastern, 8pm Central, 6pm Pacific.
You won't want to miss this powerful teleconference
For more information, view the event flyer here.
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Hey Ed! You are not welcome inside the "Circle of Hope"!
Did you know that MentorCONNECT has its own "Ed Armor"? Designed by MentorCONNECT founder Shannon, the MC "Circle of Hope" Pendant (which appears alongside the M entorCONNECT logo) reminds ALL of us that the relationships we have here with each other really DO replace eating disorders! The
best news of all is that, whether you order MC Ed Armor for yourself or
to show your support for a friend who is struggling, you will also be
giving back to your community! 100% of sales proceeds go back to MentorCONNECT to help with overhead, expenses, and new programs (like our upcoming retreat!)
To order MC Ed Armor, just click HERE |
Beating ANA Study Group
 Contact
It is so tempting to let our Ed convince us that we don't know what to do to get better.
It is so complicated - all the reasons, the motivations, the benefits,
the drawbacks, the relationships, the past pain, the future
fear......and all that complication often masks the simple fact that we
actually DO know what to do to recover. We know what we need to do. We
need to eat. We need to explore what makes us tick. We need to decide
if the ways we have decided to react, respond, and prepare for daily
life are still working for us. And if not, we need to do something new.
In the movie "Contact", Ellie (played by Jodie Foster) explains the simple scientific principle of Occam's Razor: "All things being equal, the simplest explanation tends to be the right one."
What
complicated explanations have you been allowing your Ed to feed you in
place of the simple truth? What lies have you been listening to and
acting on that are keeping you from the simple truth that FAILURE = not getting back up and SUCCESS = getting back up....period, the end?
Post your insights and ideas HERE
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 Surviving and Thriving During The Holiday Season
With Christmas
is just around the corner.... if you need some tips on how to best deal
with the upcoming holiday season, listen to the recording of last
month's teleconference called "Surviving and Thriving During the
Holiday Season!" with dietitian Jessica Setnick, who also recovered from an eating disorder.
You can find the recording here. |
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Monthly Surveys Due This Week!
Attention Mentoring Teams! Your Monthly Surveys are due this week.
Please check your email inbox for the survey link and respond as soon
as possible. Thank you! :-)
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Decision turns desperation into determination. *
Nothing short of determination will do.
There is no half-assed recovery. There is no "almost hit my food plan
today" for you, any more that there is "I almost stayed sober today"
for me. And there is no waiting for the fear to subside or to become
more comfortable with what recovery requires of you. The only way to
where you want to go, is straight through.
This morning, and tomorrow morning, and every morning, say to Ed, "Tell
me whatever you are going to tell me, threaten me with becoming big as
a 2-story house, tell me I am going to lose all control if I follow
this path of recovery, tell me how sorry I will be if I don't do what
you tell me, tell me one more time that I don't deserve recovery. Say
what you will. Pull out all the stops. Give me your best stuff. I'm not
going to do what you tell me to do --- not today. No matter how
horrible you make me feel, I will not do what you say --- not going to
do it... Now, Eddie, let's get some breakfast."
That is determination. That is the courage recovery requires.
 Thom
Rutledge is a noted speaker/trainer, workshop facilitator, author of
"Simple Truth" and "Embracing Fear", and co-author (with Jenni
Schaefer) of "Life Without Ed". Thom is also the co-coordinator of the
monthly MentorCONNECT Teleconference Series. For more information about
Thom, visit him at www.nutshellwisdom.com
*copyright Thom Rutledge, all rights reserved
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Support Groups Community-Wide Homework
 Just a reminder that homework is posted each week after our support group meetings.
You are warmly invited to join in the continuing discussions by visiting the Groups page HERE
Want to join in
the Monday & Thursday Night e-chats but aren't sure where to go,
how to log in, and where to find the week's song lyrics? Click HERE for a login refresher!
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Have you missed a podcast?
Now, catch Thom
Carolyn & Sara
Jenni
Jessica
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Contact your MC Leadership Team
Have a question about the Mentoring Moment?
andrea@key-to-life.com
Have a question about the Forums?
jeanette@key-to-life.com
Want to make a mentoring match?
cheryl@key-to-life.com
Have questions about contributing to MC?
cheryl@key-to-life.com
Want to rsvp for an upcoming teleconference?
mc@key-to-life.com
Want to share your experience of MC?
mc@key-to-life.com
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Join us Monday & Thursday Nights on Chat!
Monday night,
8-9pm central time
Thursday night,
8-9pm central time
The chat room will be open from 7pm-10pm (Central time) to give us all time to reconnect before and after chat!
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Match with a Personal Recovery Mentor in Three EZ Steps!
MentorCONNECT is proud to be the first organization of its kind to offer one-on-one mentoring matchups!
If you would like to take advantage of your membership benefit to match with one of our caring volunteer mentors, here is how:
1. ORDER "Beating Ana" from your local library or bookseller
2. Complete the "Beating Ana Chapter One" exercise
3. EMAIL your answer to Jeanette
It really is that easy!
Why do we ask you to read 30 pages of a book before beginning a mentoring partnership?
Simply because once you understand the Mentor Model we use here on MentorCONNECT, you will be both knowledgeable AND fired up to make the most of your chance to be mentored!
Our mentors are standing by, on call to support you and reassure you that YES, recovery really IS possible for YOU too!
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MentorCONNECT is grateful for the support of its Sponsoring Care Partners:
Remuda Ranch Programs for Eating Disorders
Tapestry: A Residential Treatment Center for Women with Eating Disorders
You Are Not Alone
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MM Archives: To access the full Mentoring Moment Archives, click HERE
NOTE: Participation in MentorCONNECT
is NOT meant to replace the supervision and care of a qualified medical
professional, and should never be construed as such. Shannon Cutts, the
MentorCONNECT Leadership Team and Key to Life
can NOT be held liable for any activities undertaken as a part or
result of receiving or participating in these online communities. If
you have a medical question, please consult your healthcare
professional.
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