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MentorCONNECT's Weekly Mentoring Moment
A Chance to Build New Skills for Mentoring Matchups
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November 9, 2009
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| Theme for the Week: Take Good Care of Yourself |
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Welcome to this month's Good News!
We had a wonderful teleconference with dietitian and eating
disorder survivor Jessica Setnick last week on how to thrive
through the upcoming holiday season. In case you missed the call, or
would like to listen to it again, click here.
We are also excited to share information within this ezine about
the next teleconference in our series, occurring on December 9th, with
Shannon Cutts and Thom Rutledge about perfectionism.
If you are on Facebook, Twitter or MySpace, be sure to look
MentorCONNECT up, and say "Hello!" -- we are looking forward to
connecting with you online! :-)
See you on tonight's and Thursday night's live chat.
Warmly and with HOPE,
Shannon, Jeanette, Andrea, Lynn, Cheryl, & Thom
(your MC Leadership & Advisory Team) |
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Do You Live In The Philadelphia Area & Want To Meet Shannon In Person?
Here is your chance! :-)
The 19th Annual Renfrew Center Foundation Conference for Professionals:
Feminist Perspectives and Beyond:
The Art and Science of Eating Disorders Treatment
Shannon will be a featured poster presenter - her subject? The power of adding a mentor to the treatment team!
Come
cheer her on and learn from incredible eating disorders professionals
who are working hard to find new treatment approaches to help us
all!
When: November 12, 2009 to November 15, 2009
Location: Philadelphia, PA (Airport Marriot Hotel)
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Mentoring "Thought for the Week"
I
can take care of myself. I can. I was born with the ability to meet all
of my human needs in safe, healthy, and appropriate ways.
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Join us Wednesday, December 9: MC Teleconference Series
with Shannon Cutts & Thom Rutledge
"Perfection is not one of our choices"
  In
this teleconference, Thom and Shannon will lead a discussion about one
of the most dangerous pitfalls of eating disorder recovery: the
unrelenting and destructive drive to measure ourselves against a
standard of perfection. The timing of this discussion is, of course,
"perfect," as we all prepare for a new year --- and a new decade.
Date: Wednesday, December 9th
Time: 9pm Eastern, 8pm Central, 6pm Pacific.
For more information, view the event flyer here.
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Monthly Surveys Due Now!
Attention Mentoring Teams! Your Monthly Surveys
are due now! Please check your email inbox for the survey link and
respond as soon as possible! |
Hey Ed! You are not welcome inside the "Circle of Hope"!
Did you know that MentorCONNECT has its own "Ed Armor"? Designed by MentorCONNECT founder Shannon, the MC "Circle of Hope" Pendant (which appears alongside the M entorCONNECT logo) reminds ALL of us that the relationships we have here with each other really DO replace eating disorders! The
best news of all is that, whether you order MC Ed Armor for yourself or
to show your support for a friend who is struggling, you will also be
giving back to your community! 100% of sales proceeds go back to MentorCONNECT to help with overhead, expenses, and new programs (like our upcoming retreat!) To order MC Ed Armor, just click HERE |
Beating Ana Group
Something's Gotta Give
 Sometimes what we are doing is working, and when it is working, we have to put our nose to the grindstone and keep on going. And sometimes what we are doing is not working, and that may mean it is time to find a new grindstone.
Only you and your support team can determine whether it is time to dig
in and work harder on what you are doing, or to change course and try
something new.
In the movie "Something's Gotta Give", Jack
Nicholson's character is a successful older gentleman who has convinced
himself that he prefers the 'simple life' of dating much younger women
he has absolutely nothing in common with...until he meets the vibrant,
attractive successful playwright mom (played by Diane Keaton) of one of
his sometime-dates, and she quite literally sweeps him off his feet.
The only trouble is, he is so stuck in his old thoughts and
his old ways that at first he has no idea why what he has always done
suddenly feels so wrong!
Is there something that's just gotta give in your life in order to give way for something better?
How are your old thoughts, habits, and ways holding you back from the
dreams, hopes, and desires you have of a life that doesn't include your
eating disorder?
Post your insights and ideas HERE |
When you say that you don't want to hurt anyone,
do you include yourself?*
So
you wouldn't hurt a fly, eh? You go far out of your way to not hurt
someone else's feelings, right? You are committed to treating others
with respect and fairness, yes? Well, there is nothing wrong with any
of that. The only thing wrong is that you probably do not include
yourself in all of this concern and respect. Getting past the
codependency that comes (free, no extra charge) with your eating
disorder, does not require that you stop being kind, loving and
respectful to others. It does require, however, that you treat yourself
with the same positive regard. Think of it as living according to the
reverse golden rule: treat yourself as you would treat others.
 Thom Rutledge
is a noted speaker/trainer, workshop facilitator, author of "Simple
Truth" and "Embracing Fear", and co-author (with Jenni Schaefer) of
"Life Without Ed". Thom is also the co-coordinator of the monthly MentorCONNECT Teleconference Series. For more information about Thom, visit him at www.nutshellwisdom.com
*copyright Thom Rutledge, all rights reserved
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Support Groups Community-Wide Homework
 Just a reminder that homework is posted each week after our support group meetings.
You are warmly invited to join in the continuing discussions by visiting the Groups page HERE
Want to join in
the Monday & Thursday Night e-chats but aren't sure where to go,
how to log in, and where to find the week's song lyrics? Click HERE for a login refresher!
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Carolyn & Sara
Jenni
Jessica
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Contact your MC Leadership Team
Have a question about the Mentoring Moment?
andrea@key-to-life.com
Have a question about the Forums?
jeanette@key-to-life.com
Want to make a mentoring match?
cheryl@key-to-life.com
Have questions about contributing to MC?
cheryl@key-to-life.com
Want to rsvp for an upcoming teleconference?
mc@key-to-life.com
Want to share your experience of MC?
mc@key-to-life.com
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Join us Monday & Thursday Nights on Chat!
Monday night,
8-9pm central time
Thursday night,
8-9pm central time
The chat room will be open from 7pm-10pm (Central time) to give us all time to reconnect before and after chat!
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Match with a Personal Recovery Mentor in Three EZ Steps!
MentorCONNECT is proud to be the first organization of its kind to offer one-on-one mentoring matchups!
If you would like to take advantage of your membership benefit to match with one of our caring volunteer mentors, here is how:
1. ORDER "Beating Ana" from your local library or bookseller
2. Complete the "Beating Ana Chapter One" exercise
3. EMAIL your answer to Jeanette
It really is that easy!
Why do we ask you to read 30 pages of a book before beginning a mentoring partnership?
Simply because once you understand the Mentor Model we use here on MentorCONNECT, you will be both knowledgeable AND fired up to make the most of your chance to be mentored!
Our mentors are standing by, on call to support you and reassure you that YES, recovery really IS possible for YOU too!
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MentorCONNECT is grateful for the support of its Sponsoring Care Partners:
Remuda Ranch Programs for Eating Disorders
 Tapestry: A Residential Treatment Center for Women with Eating Disorders
You Are Not Alone
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MM Archives: To access the full Mentoring Moment Archives, click HERE
NOTE: Participation in MentorCONNECT
is NOT meant to replace the supervision and care of a qualified medical
professional, and should never be construed as such. Shannon Cutts, the
MentorCONNECT Leadership Team and Key to Life
can NOT be held liable for any activities undertaken as a part or
result of receiving or participating in these online communities. If
you have a medical question, please consult your healthcare
professional.
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