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MentorCONNECT's Weekly Mentoring Moment
A Chance to Build New Skills for Mentoring Matchups
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November 16, 2009
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| Theme for the Week:
We Can't Change The Past, But We Can Learn From It |
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Welcome to this month's Good News!
Another week, another great edition of MentorCONNECT's Weekly Mentoring Moment.
Shannon just came back home from an AWESOME Renfrew Center
Conference in Philadelphia. Look for the famous (ok not so much
but still fun! :) photo-journal in next the week's ezine edition.
See you on tonight's and Thursday night's live chat.
Warmly and with HOPE,
Shannon, Jeanette, Andrea, Lynn, Cheryl, & Thom
(your MC Leadership & Advisory Team) |
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Mentoring "Thought for the Week"
Trust does not grow on trees - trust is grown on the tree of my life
as I take small, daily steps out of my comfort zone, holding my own hand
for reassurance and support.
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Join us Wednesday, December 9: MC Teleconference Series
with Thom Rutledge & Jeanette
"Perfection is not one of our choices"
In
this teleconference, Thom, Shannon and Jeanette will lead a discussion
about one of the most dangerous pitfalls of eating disorder recovery:
the unrelenting and destructive drive to measure ourselves against a
standard of perfection. The timing of this discussion is, of course,
"perfect," as we all prepare for a new year --- and a new decade.
Date: Wednesday, December 9th
Time: 9pm Eastern, 8pm Central, 6pm Pacific.
For more information, view the event flyer here.
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Hey Ed! You are not welcome inside the "Circle of Hope"!
Did you know that MentorCONNECT has its own "Ed Armor"? Designed by MentorCONNECT founder Shannon, the MC "Circle of Hope" Pendant (which appears alongside the M entorCONNECT logo) reminds ALL of us that the relationships we have here with each other really DO replace eating disorders! The
best news of all is that, whether you order MC Ed Armor for yourself or
to show your support for a friend who is struggling, you will also be
giving back to your community! 100% of sales proceeds go back to MentorCONNECT to help with overhead, expenses, and new programs (like our upcoming retreat!) To order MC Ed Armor, just click HERE |
Beating Ana Group
28 Days
 Grief sucks. Who amongst us wants to cry, to rage, to bargain, to accept the unacceptable...good lord, anything but that!
And
yet grieving is necessary or recovery is simply not going to happen.
Whatever happened in our past that made the eating disordered thoughts
and behaviors feel necessary for our survival hurt us very much. It
brought out our primal fear, and we learned to cling to the eating
disorder - instead of to ourselves and supportive others and life
itself - for our survival.
So we simply must grieve whatever it was before we will feel safe enough in our own company to let the eating disorder go.
In the movie 28 Days,
we meet Gwen (played by Sandra Bullock). Gwen is an alcoholic and drug
abuser. When we first meet Gwen, she is convinced she is fine. It is
only after she is sentenced to 28 days of rehab in lieu of jail that
she begins to meet others who want recovery, and she realizes that it
is possible to be proud of letting the feelings out, to be celebrated
for the courage of letting the behaviors go, and to be supported in
seeking a life free from behaviors that have become life-threatening.
Where are you feeling stuck in the five stage grief process (denial, anger, bargaining, sadness, acceptance)?
What kind of help do you still need that you have not yet found - or
have not yet been able to accept? Where have you tried to skip ahead or
sneak around the necessity to experience each stage in its
turn?
Post your insights and ideas HERE
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Learn from the past, then get the hell out of there.
Learn from failure and it becomes success.*
We
spend far too much time stuck in the past, reviewing over and over and
over and over again the mistakes and failures that we have no power to
change. As a friend of mine often reminds me: there is such a thing as
time travel, but it only moves in one direction --- forward. This
nutshell is really an application of the Serenity Prayer. We can't change the past, but we can learn from it.
Learning the lessons experience wants to teach us, and applying those
lessons to today - now that is an efficient use of our time and energy.
 Thom
Rutledge is a noted speaker/trainer, workshop facilitator, author of
"Simple Truth" and "Embracing Fear", and co-author (with Jenni
Schaefer) of "Life Without Ed". Thom is also the co-coordinator of the
monthly MentorCONNECT Teleconference Series. For more information about
Thom, visit him at www.nutshellwisdom.com
*copyright Thom Rutledge, all rights reserved
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Support Groups Community-Wide Homework
 Just a reminder that homework is posted each week after our support group meetings.
You are warmly invited to join in the continuing discussions by visiting the Groups page HERE
Want to join in
the Monday & Thursday Night e-chats but aren't sure where to go,
how to log in, and where to find the week's song lyrics? Click HERE for a login refresher!
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Have you missed a podcast?
Now, catch Thom
Carolyn & Sara
Jenni
Jessica
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Contact your MC Leadership Team
Have a question about the Mentoring Moment?
andrea@key-to-life.com
Have a question about the Forums?
jeanette@key-to-life.com
Want to make a mentoring match?
cheryl@key-to-life.com
Have questions about contributing to MC?
cheryl@key-to-life.com
Want to rsvp for an upcoming teleconference?
mc@key-to-life.com
Want to share your experience of MC?
mc@key-to-life.com
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Join us Monday & Thursday Nights on Chat!
Monday night,
8-9pm central time
Thursday night,
8-9pm central time
The chat room will be open from 7pm-10pm (Central time) to give us all time to reconnect before and after chat!
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Match with a Personal Recovery Mentor in Three EZ Steps!
MentorCONNECT is proud to be the first organization of its kind to offer one-on-one mentoring matchups!
If you would like to take advantage of your membership benefit to match with one of our caring volunteer mentors, here is how:
1. ORDER "Beating Ana" from your local library or bookseller
2. Complete the "Beating Ana Chapter One" exercise
3. EMAIL your answer to Jeanette
It really is that easy!
Why do we ask you to read 30 pages of a book before beginning a mentoring partnership?
Simply because once you understand the Mentor Model we use here on MentorCONNECT, you will be both knowledgeable AND fired up to make the most of your chance to be mentored!
Our mentors are standing by, on call to support you and reassure you that YES, recovery really IS possible for YOU too!
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MentorCONNECT is grateful for the support of its Sponsoring Care Partners:
Remuda Ranch Programs for Eating Disorders
Tapestry: A Residential Treatment Center for Women with Eating Disorders
You Are Not Alone
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MM Archives: To access the full Mentoring Moment Archives, click HERE
NOTE: Participation in MentorCONNECT
is NOT meant to replace the supervision and care of a qualified medical
professional, and should never be construed as such. Shannon Cutts, the
MentorCONNECT Leadership Team and Key to Life
can NOT be held liable for any activities undertaken as a part or
result of receiving or participating in these online communities. If
you have a medical question, please consult your healthcare
professional.
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